The Laws #85

There are many times when rechilus is assur, forbidden, even about a child. Explains the Chafetz Chaim, let’s say I go over to a certain gentleman and I say, you know, I just saw Reuven’s kid was pounding your child, or Reuven’s kid was making fun of your child, or it’s a shame the way Reuven’s son embarrasses your son. Explains the Chafetz Chaim, what’s going to happen? You will greatly feel the pain of…






The Laws #84

The definition of rechilus is if I come to you and tell you this is what Reuven said about you, this is what Reuven did to you. Explains the Chafetz Chaim, the issur of rechilus applies whether the person I’m now speaking to is someone who’s distant or even a close relative. Or if the person I said did it was someone who is distant or even a close relative. And explains the Chafetz Chaim,…






The Laws #83

One of the very common areas for rechilus is in a situation of competitors in business. Two store owners, two business owners, are competing for customers, and oftentimes there’ll be a situation of rechilus that becomes very nasty, very biting and very damaging. And the Chafetz Chaim gives an illustration. Imagine the following: Imagine that Reuven has a business and he has a good customer. And the customer agrees to take a certain amount of…






The Laws #82

If Reuven tells me that Shimon said something about me, did something to me, that is rechilus. Under certain limited conditions it’s permitted. But unless there’s a specific reason, it’s forbidden.  Additionally, not only is this person not allowed to tell me the rechilus, I’m not allowed to be mekabel it; I’m not allowed to accept it to be true. What if Reuven told me that Shimon did something, said something about me, and he’s…






The Laws #81

If I listened to rechilus and I was mekabel it, I accepted it, and I accepted it to be a fact, explains the Chafetz Chaim, the way to do teshuvah for that is I have take that fact out of my heart. I have to undo that acceptance in my heart. However, he explains, that’s quite difficult. Meaning, we by nature trust people. So imagine you told me that Reuven said something about me; Reuven…






The Laws #80

The Chafetz Chaim explains that this illustrates clearly one of the great failings that we often get involved in. Oftentimes someone will say to a friend, tell me, what did he say about me? Come on, come on, what did he say? And the friend might not want to tell. The friend might not want to speak, whether it’s because it’s rechilus or for whatever the reason, so I’ll press him. Please, come on, come…






The Laws #79

There are situations where I’m allowed to seek out words of rechilus. Let’s assume that I have a very good reason to suspect someone of doing something wrong to me. Explains the Chafetz Chaim, if it has a status of really רגליים לדבר, meaning to say, it really is apparent, it really is clear that there’s good reason to suspect. Not just a sort of vague suspicion, but there really is very good reason to…






The Laws #78

As it’s forbidden to speak rechilus, so too it’s forbidden to be mekabel, to accept it, so too it’s forbidden to listen to rechilus. So if you come over and tell me that Reuven planned on doing something to me, Reuven did something to me, said something about me, you spoke rechilus. And if I listen, I also violated an issur, it’s forbidden for me to listen as well. However, explains the Chafetz Chaim, when…






The Laws #77

The definition of rechilus is if you come to me and tell me that So-and-So planned on doing something bad to me, So-and-So did something wrong to me; that is rechilus. You violate לא תלך רכיל בעמך, do not be a talebearer in your nation, by speaking those words. And it’s a full prohibition, it’s a full issur. In addition to the issur, to the prohibition of speaking rechilus, it’s additionally assur for me, the…






The Laws #76

When it comes to lashon hara, the Chafetz Chaim explains that there are two separate issues involved in any speaking of lashon hara. Number 1, I’ve sinned against Hashem because Hashem said not to do it. Number 2, I’ve sinned against my friend because I’ve damaged that person’s reputation and et cetera. And explains the Chafetz Chaim, when it comes to teshuvah, I have to repent on both parts. I have to obviously ask Hashem…






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