Pesach – The Season of Emunah

“When you enter the Land of Israel, you will enjoy prosperity and abundance. You will build beautiful homes. Your crops and livestock will increase. You will amass gold and silver. And all that you engage in will flourish… If you become arrogant and say, ‘My strength and the might of my hand made this wealth.’” “And you shall remember that HASHEM, your G-d, is the One who gives you the strength to amass this wealth.”…






Pesach – I ’ m Never Wrong

“Moshe said: “So said HASHEM, ‘At about midnight, I shall go out in the midst of Egypt.” – Shemos 11:4 Moshe changed the wording After months and months of HASHEM showing the Mitzrim that He alone controls every aspect of Creation, Moshe was instructed to warn Pharaoh that if he still wouldn’t let the Jewish people go, then exactly at the stroke of midnight, every firstborn in Mitzrayim would die. Yet when Moshe appeared in…






#7. I Could Have Done Better

After a while, most people come to the realization that their spouse isn’t perfect. A man may notice that there are women more attractive than his wife. A woman might see that there are men who make more money than her husband. Or it might be a particular behavior that becomes the issue. “Why can’t my wife be as organized as that woman?” “Why can’t my husband be as responsible as that man?” And sometimes…






#6 I’m Not Ready to Change

You see, from the moment that you arrived into this world, it’s been all about you. What do you need? What will serve you well? What’s best for you? As an infant, it was all about your schedule and your nap. When it was time for school, the first question your parents asked was, “What’s the best school for you?” Then came camp. Again, one focus: where would you gain the most? When it came…






#5. It’s Not Your Job to Change Your Spouse

When they were dating, it was so exhilarating. He was always filled with energy, always moving. It filled her with a sense of excitement. Now, after three years of marriage, she finds his ADHD behavior vexing. He’s always late. He’s always forgetting things. He’s constantly bouncing checks. So she spends the next twenty years trying to change him. When they were going out, he often felt gallant. She would get nervous, and he would step…






#4 Really Dumb Mistake: Forgetting that You Guys Are Friends

It’s six thirty at night. A young man comes home from work, enters his apartment, plops himself down on the coach, pulls out the newspaper, and buries himself in the news. Meanwhile, his wife over in the kitchen can’t believe her eyes. “Here I am slaving away making dinner. The kids are wild, destroying the apartment, and that guy is going to just sit there?” She doesn’t say a thing. But she does start steaming….






#3. It’s Respect First, Love Second

A husband and wife are walking when suddenly he trips. “Oy!” she cries out. “Are you OK?! I hope you’re not hurt.” “It’s OK. It’s OK,” he responds. “I’m fine.” Let’s revisit the scenario. The same man and woman. The same street. They are walking when suddenly he trips, and she cries out: “Klutz! What’s wrong with you? Can’t you even walk without tripping?” What’s the difference between Scenario One and Scenario Two? In the…






#2 They forget that infatuation is effortless and that real love takes work.

It’s not what HASHEM wanted Imagine you meet an old friend. You have haven’t seen him in years, and you barely recognize him because he’s huge. When you were kids, he was a toothpick, but now he’s a hundred pounds overweight, chain smokes, and can barely move. You say to him, “Shmeil. You look terrible!” “I know. I know,” he responds, “But what can I do? I love to eat. I hate exercise. And I’m…






#1 It wasn’t love; it was magic, and the magic wore off

Almost every couple has that moment of revelation. It may be two weeks after the wedding or two months after, but one morning either he or she wakes up and thinks, “Oh my gosh! I don’t believe it. I made the biggest mistake in my life. I married the wrong one!” And it’s true that they made a mistake – but not the one they think they made. They made a far more fundamental mistake…






But I’m Just Not Sure

What happens if you sort of, kind of, feel this person is the right one—but you’re just not sure? What do you do? The first thing you do is speak the situation over with someone older and wiser than you, the main goal being to help you sort out your feelings and help you identify exactly what you feel. It’s also the time to ask Hashem for help. (It’s always the time to ask Hashem…






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